Approaching A Woman & Asking Her Out

***QUESTION from the mailbox about how to approach a women and ask her out.***

whatsup dr dave,

let me start out by saying you are my savior. ive

been getting your newsletters for about a month

now, and WOW! thank you. my question is: i work

in a restaurant. needless to say there are quite a

few 8s,9s and even a few 10s working there.

approaching and talking to them is not a problem.

but i feel i should be careful when asking one of

them to join me for beer after work. So how to approach a women and and ask her out.

i dont want to bring any feelings of uncomfortableness between

us (if shes not interested). what would you

recommend i do and what should i say?

t indy

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The first thing to remember is that when you

"ask a woman out", you IMMEDIATELY start a whole

chain of mental and emotional events for a woman.

She has to decide if she "likes you" and if

there could ever be anything between the two of

you... and if she's thirsty and interested in free

beer.

You get my drift.

Women know when you're asking them "out out",

as in you're asking them because you have a

"romantic interest".

Guess what?

When you do this, it ALSO puts the woman in the

driver's seat in the situation because she

instantly realizes that she has something you

want. Have you ever heard of "wanting it tax"?

It's when the price goes up the more you want it.

Now, as you probably know, I don't generally

think that it's such a great idea to date women

you WORK with, because you never know what's going

to happen, and the last thing you need is losing

your job or having to work for hours at a time in

an uncomfortable situation.

And besides, attractive women usually have

attractive FRIENDS, and if you're cool, the women

you work with can lead to an endless supply of

dates. Think it over.

You might want to think of it as a goose that

lays golden eggs.

Even though I don't advise dating women you

work with, I still want to address your basic

question of asking a woman out without creating

discomfort...

Remember, most guys do the exact same things.

They start talking to a woman, then say, "Hey, can

I take you out sometime?" or "Do you have a

boyfriend?"

This stuff is HORRIBLE.

It does exactly the wrong thing. It makes you

look like a wuss boy that needs a girlfriend. And

if she's not interested (which she probably won't

be), then it WILL create some discomfort in the

future.

MUCH BETTER TO TEST FIRST, THEN TAKE A SMALL

STEP.

If it's a woman you know, tease her, bust on

her, and generally act like you don't care. Make a

comment about her and walk away. Be Cocky & Funny

when you're with her, and don't be boring.

Then, if she's responding positively (laughing,

hitting you, telling you that you're a pain,

etc.), then say, "Hey, do you have email?"

If she does, have her write it down, then say,

"Bye".

From a MAN'S perspective this might not seem

any different than just asking a woman out.

But, from the WOMAN'S perspective it's VERY

different.

First of all, you've never shown her any

romantic interest, which doesn't give up your

power in the situation, and hand it all to her.

Secondly, instead of putting "dating" pressure

on her, you've only asked her for her email

address (and maybe her number as well).

But you HAVEN'T asked her on a date, you

HAVEN'T created any kinds of weird vibes in the

air, and you HAVE made her wonder what you have in

mind.

It's powerful, think about it.

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hey There,

Ok So I am a butch lesbian who has recently

subscribed to your mailbag. Ok I am totally

fascinated by you and what u have to say. I am

planning on getting your book next week actually.

I have used your tips about getting the phone

numbers by asking the girl if they have email. Ok

that works like a charm, i haven't yet not got a

phone number. So Just to let you know, you advice

works for butch lesbians too! ok but here is my

prob. I met this girl and i got her email addy,

phone number and s/n. Well I didn't want to be

like everyone else and call her so i sent her an

instant message. Well finally she wanted to call

me. My response was I hope your not a stalker,

trying to be funny and cute. Well she called and

we talked forever, i couldn't get the girl off the

phone. Now she calls me like 5 times a day. She

really likes me, she has admitted it and she broke

up with her g/f so she could see where things go

with me. I like her a lot and i want to see where

things go, but her ex is a threat to me and her ex

might want her back. I've also made the mistake of

telling her i like her, so i'm thinking she may

become "in control." My question is what do I do

next? Meaning how do i get that control back, do i

continue acting like i want her, or should i talk

about other girls? Also what about the ex? do i

make it a threat or what. Also she is jealous b/c

her best friend also likes me. Anyways, any advice

u may have for me, i would appreciate it.

Much Appreciation CNS Georgia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is great.

You know, if I PAID people to write this stuff

it couldn't possibly be this good.

I have this secret lesbian fan base that only

breaks the silence occasionally when the situation

gets really critical. Love it.

OK, here are a couple of thoughts:

1) If she has an ex who's in the picture, keep

your distance and make her pursue you.

I have PERSONALLY made the mistake of acting

CLINGY when an ex turns up in the picture and

tries to get a woman back.

It's generally not a good idea.

The best thing you can do is what you're

already doing... tease her and let her pursue YOU.

If she's busy pursuing you, she'll be thinking

about you, wondering what you're doing, wondering

why you're so busy, etc. and won't have the

attention for the ex.

On the other hand, if you start pursuing HER,

then she'll have to "decide between which one she

wants".

Not a good position to put yourself in. And

it's MUCH less interesting for her as well.

2) If her friend also likes you, that can be a

GOOD thing.

Jealousy is a very interesting emotion.

It's not something you want to use to

manipulate another person, but if the situation

creates it naturally, that's another thing

entirely.

If you have someone who is interested in you,

and that person knows that others are also

interested, it only makes them like you more.

...You know, someday I'm going to have to do a

Double Your Dating LESBIAN SUMMIT, so I can be

stuck in some resort somewhere with 100 lesbian

women who need dating advice.

I would have to say something male and

insensitive like that, wouldn't I?

***QUESTION***

David,

I've been reading your weekly newsletters, and I

decided to take the plunge and get your online

book.

It's got some great information, and some tips

that I haven't thought of. I found myself already

doing a lot of things covered, and I guess I'm

pretty pleased that I needed much less training

than I thought I did.

But I do have this question, and it's not covered

in your books, and it continues to stump me. I've

added a bit of extraneous information, so you have

a good picture of what happens.

A quick note of background, I was raised by my

mother, and like many men like that, I can be

pretty effeminate. Frankly, most of the time, that

isn't a problem as I have found, more often than

not, as long as you're confident, girls will just

go on; if anything, it confuses the hell out of

them, because it's very easy for me to play the

friend role in the coffee shop, while also

flirting with them. In fact, it's very disarming

(and it allows me a greater understanding of girls

than most guys have, and has helped me quite a

lot.)

Usually (but not always) girls I meet are off the

internet, and what happens every single time is

this: I meet them and then within three to five

hours they're in my bed, or we're in my car making

out. Some of this is due to confidence, some

because of the cocky/funny thing, some of this is

because I am disarming and I make them feel

relaxed. I don't have sex with them, I'm a virgin,

it's just a personal choice, and I will add that

all the girls I've ever been with except for one

were *not* virgins, and in two or three occasions,

I've had to refuse a hard sex sell.

So after we're done making out, I take them home,

everything seems fine.

Then the next day, they don't want anything to do

with me. They do want to be friends (most of the

time) but they don't really even want to talk to

me on the phone or see me in person again. They

definitely don't want to date again.

Sometimes I get a reason why (only once or twice

has that reason been "we're moving too fast" or

its variant "I'm really confused and I don't know

what to do.") One time I got the response that I'm

"too different" another time, in a situation which

happened with a girl who lived out of state, and

therefore I really wasn't trying to date, I later

found out that I made her "feel dirty." The

answers are all different, and yet they (usually)

seem to have a universal confusion that binds

them.

And for the most part, I'm hard wired for a long

term relationship, so this is all depressing to me

that I'm essentially having lots of little one

night stands. I've theorized that it may be

because I'm moving too fast, but is that concept

real? Is it because I lead them on so much and

then I finally refuse them?

Your book is entirely about seducing them, and I'm

successful doing that; but for some reason, we

part, they go back and think about things for a

bit, and I can't do it a second time because they

want very little to do with me. (It happens

quickly too...I've woken up to emails saying "I'm

sorry to tell you this...but...")

Anyway, your thoughts are appreciated,

J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, yeah... I really feel your pain.

You've learned how to make women want to make

out with you and have sex within a few hours of

meeting... BUT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED IN SEX... and

then they don't call you back.

Will someone please give this guy a medal for

dumbest question of all time?

I think you might want to go read some "Mars

and Venus" books or something. Try buying women

things, or maybe paying for lots of dinners or

something.

lol... I think you're going to figure it all

out.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

First off, I want to tell you how amazing your

stuff is! (I'm sure you already know) It's really

changed my life. I feel great about myself! I

never realized how much of a wuss I was until

after reading your book. lol...I laugh at how

stupid I was. I am now able to talk to women and

feel completely confident about myself. It's

great!

Anyways, I was on a double date the other night

and I decided to try some of your techniques. I

noticed that just by acting like you are in

control of yourself, gets you far. I had my date

feeling as though she wasn't good enough for me,

and my friends date was even hitting on me. I

could not believe it. However, I had trouble

coming up with some C&F things to say. How do you

know what to say and when to say it? I want to

master this! What do you suggest to further this

skill?

A, UT

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, let me see if I understand your situation.

You read my book, realized you were a wuss,

STOPPED being a wuss, STARTED getting great

results, and now you want to know what I suggest

to further your skills?

Here's a hint:

[AdvancedSeries]

...and here's another one:

Sit down and take an hour of your life to WRITE

DOWN the 10 most common situations you find

yourself in with women, then come up with 3 great

Cocky & Funny lines for each situation.

Finally, practice them in your mind, and in the

real world until they feel natural.

PRACTICE.

***QUESTION***

Hello Dave, This is T., I just ordered and

received your CD's and I'm ready to roll, I just

want to let you know my current situation, not

once have i dated someone who I was really

attracted to, clicked with, and who was

emotionally stable, I'm 27 years old and all my

friends are dating descent looking women and

moving on in their relationships, They tried

setting me up with a few people, but they were all

nasty looking, and they tell me that i'm very

picky and that i should learn to "like someone for

who they are" which i think is pure bullsh**, to

me, attraction is very important or else i can't

date the person, I know I'm a good-looking guy and

I can do just as good and better once I gain the

tools from your CD's, I have a problem with being

"nice," instead of cocky, ball-busting, and

mysterious, like all my other friends, the few

girls that i've dated that i found attractive

always stopped calling me and I simply don't know

why, i simply don't have the positive qualities

that the "jerk" has, i simply don't know how to

approach someone who's attractive and carry on a

good conversation, will the cd's turn all that

around for me? hope this email isn't too long, if

it is, i'll keep it shorter next time.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The short answer is: YES. DEFINITELY.

By the way, WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING SAYING:

"...hope this email isn't too long, if it is, i'll

keep it shorter next time..."

That's WUSSY TALK.

Are you with me?

Next time you write me, and you think your

email might be a little too long just say, "If

this email is too long for you to include in your

newsletter, let me know and I'll edit it".

Don't say things like, "hope this email isn't

too long."

Subtle things communicate so much.

EVICT THE INNER WUSSY!

***QUESTION***

David, I have used your C&F stuff with amazing

success, but theres one area of difficulty I have

encountered. I'm a freshman in college and I talk

to A LOT of girls. Almost all of the girls ive

talked to are very nice and seem very interested

and love the C&F attitude. I get their Aol

Instant Messenger names and their e-mails and all

but the problem is that some of them, even though

they had a fun time talking with me and they spent

a lot of time with me initially, they block me and

ignore me and I dont understand why. I've asked

ALL of them why but they dont respond to me and

they look at me weird and shyly. But I say and do

the same thing with them as I do with others who

dont block me and who just completely love me. I

just don't get it. I thought that maybe I

intimidated them or something. Help me David Help

Meee!!!

-c

(btw your stuff is incredible...I have 10x the

confidence and ability to get dates with women

than I ever had in the past, thanks man!)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... calm down. You're making me nervous.

You sound like you need to chill out and relax.

If you're getting BLOCKED on instant messenger,

then you're probably being just a TAD too pushy

with these women.

Lean back.

Tease.

Make a comment online then say, "I have to

run"...

Don't act like you want her attention.

RELAX.

And did I mention that you need to RELAX?

Did you hear the story about the old bull and

the young bull standing on the hill?

The young bull says, "Hey, let's RUN down there

and have sex with one of them cows!"

Old bull looks at him and says, "Let's WALK

down there and have sex with ALL of them."

Ponder. Reflect. Repeat.

***QUESTION***

Let me preface this by saying that I agree 100%

with your ideas. I realized the cocky and funny

principles in high school, when I noticed a good

friend got laid constantly because he just

naturally had that routine down. He always laughed

about it - the less he appeared to care about

getting laid, the more he got laid. Pure magic.

But I'm just curious if there are women who are

actually turned off by the cocky and funny

routine. I've always liked smart, nerdy girls -

the librarian archetype - and I'm a little leery

that these women might not be so impressed with

the C&F. Nobody likes a wuss, of course, but I'm

wondering about the women who aren't so easily

manipulated. How about some failure stories? When

doesn't this stuff work so well, and are there

things to watch for to keep from going too far

with it?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, Cocky & Funny isn't a super-

secret, covert manipulation tactic. It's a way of

flirting, teasing, and interacting with women in a

way that they enjoy.

Secondly, I've found that the only women who

DON'T respond well to it are women who are

UPTIGHT, women who aren't at all interested, or

overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which

case you can usually just tone it down and have

fun with them too).

That's my personal experience.

Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you're

attracted to (I'm glad you have that market

cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you

and will probably LOVE your Cocky & Funny

attitude. Keep it intellectual.

There will ALWAYS be situations in life when

things don't work for you.

Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he's

the best in the world at golf.

Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he's

the best in the world at BBall.

We don't live in an ideal testing lab, we live

in reality.

Don't worry about what won't work, and find

what will.

The thing to watch for to keep from going too

far with Cocky & Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY

ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens,

walk away.

By the way, if you want to MASTER this

technique, then you REALLY need to check out my

"Cocky Comedy" CD/DVD program. It's the only

program in the world that teaches you how to use

this unique form of fun flirting to create

ATTRACTION with women. And you can only get it in

one place. Right here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10006/CockyComedy/

***COMMENT***

Hey Dave

Here comes a big thank you. Your material is

unbelievable/ amazing/<insert superlatives from

your fave thesaurus here>. Just wanted to clue you

in on what you've done for me and how you've

healed the social leper (at least with girls) that

was me.

Bit of background: I'm short, stocky, average

looks but I can be funny. The "funny nice guy" got

me places, but trouble was, I was a major wimp

when it came to women. The Sub-Standard "Mom's

brainwashing" owns up at this point. I'd stumbled

my way through school and early twenties, slowly

but surely improving my appearance and myself from

no-hoper to "in-with-a-chance -if-he'd-only-open-

his-mouth" type guy. Last Christmas I got lucky

with a girl I'd dreamed about at work. And when I

say I got lucky, I mean she seemed to fancy me

too. Well in early October this year, after losing

her completely to the Mystery that is Women's

Attraction, I was at the end of my tether. I'd go

home after parties seriously annoyed that I got

nowhere, ragging on at myself for missing my

chances. I was losing my will to live,

metaphorically at least.

Anyway, did a search on the net, found your stuff,

and downloaded your ebook the same day. Read it,

and immediately realised what I'd done wrong with

that girl. Mentally, committed myself to give up

on the memory of her and moved on. That evening,

went out to a club with friends and applied your

principles (well what I could remember anyway) and

did SO well I was a new man. UNTIL I got a little

too drunk and turned WIMP again and spilled out

how I thought this girl there (a friend) was

amazing etc. She literally hid from me the rest of

the night. hahaha.

So fast forward to now: The Wussbag side of me has

been consigned to a berth on S.S. Titanic, and I

have had 6's and 7's throwing themselves at me

these last couple of months. I'm moving up the

food chain slowly but surely. Cheers for sorting

my head/life/etc. out and helping me towards being

able to look myself in the eye in the mirror

again.

Some wise person once said "If you wanna get

loaded quick, start a religion". Well Dave, looks

like you've inadvertently done that.

Cheers

MJ London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What, no gifts for me?

Yeah, you gotta be careful with that alcohol

stuff.

It can loosen you up, but it can just as easily

make you act like a dumb ass in the worst way.

Great job, and thanks for the email.

Isn't it great that we regular guys can have

success with women...? Love it.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Ok, for everyone reading this now.. GET DAVID D's

BOOK NOW!! and his CD/DVD's too!! Dave, you are

the man! I've never in my entire life had this

much success in the last 6-8 months. Case-in-point

I met this girl, about 8.5, and when we first met

I was a young jedi.. lol I had only just bought

your book and was a novice. So I became Cap'n

Wussy..lol And she said she just wanted to be

friends, so I moved on like you say. Well we have

been friends ever since, we occasionally hang out

and I would push the C+F attitude to the hilt. The

would love it, she called me an ass, smartass,

etc. Well she calls me here reverently to tell me

she now has feelings for me, and she doesn't

understand why.. of course you and I know

why..hehehe.. Supposively it happened when we went

to a movie together, I was basically treating her

like my bratty little sister. Now she wants me and

says she can't stop thinkin about me, she called

me a bastard cause she can't stop thinking about

me.. Damn, man you teach some powerful stuff.. I

told her some stuff about other women, not that

I'm dating but who have came on to me and she got

jealous, I wasn't trying to make her jealous.

Dude, I'm attracting her and I swear I'm not even

trying!! I just wanna date around and have fun,

hell I'm in a band and have dreams of being a rock

star so I'm not planning on settling down soon..

Anyway, you are truely a Jedi Master!!...

-bassman in oh

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, the good news is that even if you don't

hit it big and BECOME a rock star, you can still

ATTRACT WOMEN like a rock star!

Nice. Good work.

And I really like the new word "supposively."

***QUESTION***

Dave;

I've never wrote into one of these before, but

after reading some of your stuff and putting it to

the test I wanted to commend you on your C & F

technique... Good Stuff!

Since I'm on winter break right now I've only got

a chance to try it out online. It's been going

great and I've been getting good responses, but I

can't figure out how to close the deal. I know

you said that you want to get the woman on the

phone as soon as possible, but all I've been

getting is a couple e-mails a day from this one

that I'm trying to bag. She is a definite 9.5-10

and without a doubt interested in me, I just can't

get her to close the deal and contact me on the

phone or give me her number. What should I do?

C

>>>MY COMMENTS:

"BAG"?

"CLOSE THE DEAL"?

I'd first recommend that you stop thinking

about "bagging" and "closing the deal" and start

thinking about how you can make her feel

ATTRACTION.

If a woman feels ATTRACTION for you, then the

"bagging" will take care of itself. Are you with

me here?

Also, STOP FOCUSING TOO MUCH ENERGY ON ONE

WOMAN.

If you're just dating women right now, NEVER

put too much importance on one woman... ESPECIALLY

one that you've never even talked to.

Meet other women.

Go out.

And get your mind of off "closing" and

"bagging".

That's needy, user talk.

***QUESTION***

Hi I have a 2" of beard and I wanted to ask would

your e-book help a guy with beard in the same way

as any other guy, even though I keep it well

groomed. Thanks

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, gentle reader, this is a real question

from a real person.

My answer:

No. This stuff will absolutely not work for

you.

I'd recommend that you trim the beard to one

and seven eighths inches, and keep it slightly

less well groomed.

That should do the trick, and all of my

concepts will then work for you.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave,

Gotta tell you first of all that I'm a girl and

accidentally was subscribed to your newsletter by

a well meaning 'friend'. I found it interesting

reading about how guys are so hung up on

attracting women, going on dates and stuff. Do

forgive me I have not read your ebook Double your

dating stuff, no offence, it's just that I'm

married with kids and dating other men (apart from

my husband) is not something I'd be thrilled

about.

Anyway, I just wanted to comment on some stuff I

read in your newsletter. Here's your first hand

girlie response. It is NOT true that "once you're

in a "NO" category it's hard to get out no matter

how good your game is. Personally there were a few

guys that I've assigned to a NO category at first

and ended up dating later, my husband being one of

them. Most of my girl friends would tell you the

same. And it doesn't matter what kind of

characteristic would send a guy into the NO

category - too young, too old, too skinny, too

short, too poor, big nose, big ears, too boring,

too depressing, etc etc etc you name it. None of

it matters, at least it never mattered for me, no

matter how much I tried to make myself think

rationally. It all depends on how manly you are.

And different women have different ideas on that,

if you match most of those or at least some, it

doesn't matter if she put you in the No category

at first. Women change their mind often, as you

probably have noticed. While writing this email to

you I've changed my mind at least 3 times as to

whether I should send it or not. LOL. One last

thing - having a lot of women in your life is not

a very noble purpose for a man's life. Being a

better person and a better man is, and if you

manage to make it a priority in your life, then

beautiful, intelligent and lovable women will be

all over you in an instant. At least I find it

true in my life and in the life of my friends all

over the world. R VL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Again, I couldn't have paid someone to write

something better.

NOTICE TO ALL MEN

If you want to attract a WIFE AND KIDS, and you

want a woman who changes her mind three times

before even FINISHING an email, then take the

above advice.

My favorite:

"Having a lot of women in your life is not a very

noble purpose for a man's life."

Yeah, you're right.

Having a lot of women in your life SUCKS when

you're a man.

Thanks for your email.

***QUESTION***

My first every try of your wisdom. I got a phone

call with a girl ringing about my car. My mate saw

who she was and began chatting her up. Then i got

on the phone and gave it a speal, and told her to

contact me for a test drive and I would show her

the ropes.

The next day i got a phone call from her again.

she never liked the car but asked me if i used the

phone number to help pick-up! I put it back onto

her and told her that she called me and was

picking me up. she never denied it. two days later

i rang her and told her i was coming her way and

would like to partake in her favorite meal and

coffee. was thursday or friday best. Sure enough i

got the date. my first ever time i've asked a girl

out, and she ended up being a 5'10" leggy blonde

who dod modeling and was studying law! CATCH!

Thanks for the confidence boost C - Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, the language barrier might exist, but

the communication is LOUD AND CLEAR.

Nice.

***QUESTION***

Dave, I have your ebook and your Advance Audio CDs

and my success with women has dramatically

increased. I used to get nervous around attractive

women and would act like a complete wuss. Now I am

able to remain confident and in control, and

sometimes I notice women blush or act nervous when

I talk to them.

My problem comes when I am having a conversation

with a woman. It seems like I am only able to talk

about relatively boring things like, "how's school

going?", "what did you do last weekend?", etc.. It

is hard for me to incorporate the C&F attitude

when I am not in that fun, easy going state of

mind. I can never think of anything that I could

bust her balls on. If I am in the right setting

and atmosphere, like at a party, it is easier for

me to pull off the C&F attitude all night. I do

notice that once I make a comment that gets a

woman to laugh, it's all good from that moment on.

What kind of C&F comments can I make when first

meeting a woman to get into the flow of things?

Should I focus on her physical attributes or

something else when making that first C&F comment?

Thanks MP Louisville, KY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The FIRST thing you need to do is LISTEN TO THE

CD PROGRAM AGAIN.

It's more important that you just RELAX and get

rid of your INSECURITIES than ANYTHING ELSE!

Cocky & Funny is important, but it's MORE

important that you practice the body language and

voice tone exercises in that program, and you

learn how to project the types of beliefs and self

image that attracts women.

Don't worry as much about the techniques.

The body language and attitude are FAR more

important for you at this stage.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave, I have to say I'm the biggest wussie

you'll ever meet! I mean I can even get the nerves

to order your seminar, which I truely want to

order.

I just got out of a 13yr. marriage a year ago and

I really want to get back out into the dating

world and have fun like the rest of the guys. The

problem is that I can't break out of this wussie

shell that I'm in. I Don't know how to give myself

courage to approach women without my subconscious

mind wussing out.I've read all of your dating

tips, and they sound great, but I'm still in

confusion on starting a conversation with a women

and keeping it alive. I have to admit that I'm one

of those quiet guys that don't say to much unless

I know a women likes me, then I can talk my ass

off, then after all said and done I still wussed

out on asking her for a phone number, or a date. I

desperately need your help to get me back in the

dating world, and if you can't help me then I

don't think anybody can. Do you have any advice to

get me out of this wussie stage so I can get back

out into the dating world, and to purchase your

dating seminar? Do you have any seminars coming to

minnesota?

thanx K.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Please follow these instructions:

1) Find a strong, buff friend.

2) Ask him to BITCH SLAP you.

Repeat until you can stop acting like a girl.

I would recommend that you invest in my

Advanced Series, but I don't want to confuse and

upset you.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

You are the man!!! I have been receiving your

newsletters for about 4 months now, and plan to

get your book as soon as I get some legal issues

taken care of. I gotta say that your stuff works

wonders. Here is my example; I was at the

laundromat earlier today, and I just happened to

run across a girl I went to High School with. I

have changed a lot since the, and she didn't

recognize me. I couldn't resist the temptation

.....this was a girl who blow me off back then. I

walked up to her and started talking. Nothing

much, busting on her for coming in with her mom

..... "You still living with Mommy I see." Stuff

like that. So, after a few minutes, I tell her I

have to go finish up my clothes. I walk away

without saying a word. While I'm standing there

folding my clothes, I glance up a few times and

watch her looking at me. Every time I look up, I

give her this sly little half-cocked grin and she

jerks her head away. I finish up and go to leave,

giving her only that little grin as I'm going, and

walk out to my car. Right before I start the car,

she's running out with a slip of paper in her

hand. Its her number. Like I said before, this was

a girl who wouldn't even look my way 4 years ago.

Okay now.....here's my question.....Normally I

couldn't approach a girl like I did this one. I

get up to them, say hi, then I freeze......once I

can get into the c&f routine its no

problem......but a lot of times, I find it hard to

get into it.......Got any pointers for me?

FC Kentucky

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, I LOVE THIS STORY!

Don't you wish you could turn back the hands of

time and have another chance with all those hot

girls that ran around your high school... the ones

that wouldn't even look at you?

I'm pretending that I'm you right now, and it's

great.

To answer your question, don't worry too much

about being Cocky & Funny when you first meet a

girl that you've never talked to... one that

you've just approached.

The only thing you need to focus on is getting

her info so you can follow up later.

Use the 3 minute email/number technique, and

don't worry about being Cocky & Funny until you

get together with her next.

Trying to come up with cute lines when you

first meet a girl usually makes you self-

conscious. Just get her info!

Now...

...if you want DOZENS AND DOZENS of great dating tips and  ideas for making women feel that powerful "chemistry" with you, then go download a copy of my online ebook here:

Free Dating Tips Newsletter And Download eBook

This tool took me countless hours to develop...

Your Friend,

David D.