I get
a lot of guys who write in to ask me for dating
advice on how to behave around women. Many of
those questions focus on the first meeting or the
first date.
I thought I'd devote one entire newsletter to a
concept that I feel is VITAL to understand if
you're wondering how to behave around a woman
you've just met.
A MISTAKE ALMOST EVERY GUY MAKES
I've noticed a KEY difference between the way men
and women act when they meet a "potential
mate".
Women usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:
"You're interesting to me. I'd like to get
to know you better, and we can see where this
goes."
Men usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:
"I am so interested in you that I'm nervous.
In fact, I'm already thinking of you as a
potential girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night
stand."
In other words, women are usually casual and laid-back
when they're first meeting a guy...
But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a
POTENTIAL WIFE.
As you can imagine, this creates a lot of tension
and pressure.
And I'm not talking about the GOOD kind, either.
I'm talking about the kind that makes men shiver
and shake with nervousness, and women feel
uncomfortable because the MAN is acting
uncomfortable.
I KNOW that you can relate to this in some way.
THE ANSWER
The simple dating advice here is...
DON'T DO IT.
If you start acting all freakish and nervous when
you're talking to a woman, you're probably going
to screw things up before they've even had a
chance to get started.
Treating a woman that you've just met as if she
very well could be the love of your life is
something you should NEVER do.
Instead, take a very different approach.
My favorite is to ASSUME that every woman has
SOMETHING that's going to annoy me, bother me, or
SCREW UP HER CHANCES with me.
The MAIN reason that I do this...
SURPRISE...
IS THAT IT'S TRUE!
Duh.
The fact is that MOST women are NOT compatible
"long term" with most men. In other
words, there if you do get into a long-term
relationship with a particular woman, the chances
are that she's going to have things about her
that you don't like.
One of my favorite Cocky & Funny themes to
follow is "You're screwing up your chances
with me".
Let's say I'm walking down the street with a girl
to have a cup of tea. Let's assume that she and I
just met the night before, I got her number, and
now we're walking from my place to tea.
On the way in the door to the coffee shop, she
trips over the doorway.
I might look at her, shake my head in an "overly
dramatic fake annoyed" way, and say "This
relationship just isn't going to work".
Then, let's say fifteen minutes later she spills
her tea on the table and herself.
I'll shake my head again and say "What did I
tell you about this kind of behavior?".
In other words, I'm communicating the very
OPPOSITE of "You're a potential wife".
I'm saying "I'm so comfortable around you
that I can even make fun of you without caring
what you think of me".
Does this sound a little crazy?
Good. It should.
But trust me.
If you spend a couple of hours having regular,
normal conversation... being Cocky & Funny,
enjoying yourself, NOT trying to impress her, and
generally demonstrating that you could care less
how things turn out, you'll be FAR more likely to
take things further than if you act as if she
might be the love of your life and you wind up
acting so nervous, stilted, and DUMB that she
runs away.
So here it is your bit of dating advice... one
thing that most guys who are unsuccessful with
women do that screws things up... one thing to
AVOID:
DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A
POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.
Instead, lean back. Be cool. Make jokes about her
screwing up her chances with you. Tell her that
she's a nice friend. Assume that she has
qualities that are going to annoy you, then point
them out (in a Cocky & Funny way, of course).
Don't lose your composure. It can be fatal if you
do.
Another bit of dating advice:
Most guys don't "get" women.
And, unfortunately, most guys look for tricks and
"pick up lines" when it comes time to
LEARN how to meet women.
They don't realize that all the tricks in the
world aren't going to help them if they don't
UNDERSTAND what's "going on".
That's
where my free dating advice newsletter comes in,
along with my eBook, "Double Your Dating"...
The first portion of the book is entirely focused
on your "Inner Game". In other words,
it's focused on helping you "get"
what's going on.
This book goes into DEPTH about all aspects of
psychology and behavior of men and women... and
teaches you from the ground up. You must get rid
of some of your bad programming before you can
get GOOD programming.
You will get pages and pages of me teaching
everything from the ground up on how to take
things all the way from beginning to end... from
the first meeting through the first date... all
the way to the bedroom, and beyond.
You'll get dating advice on how to overcome your
limiting beliefs about women... how to eliminate
your fears of talking to women... how to make
women feel ATTRACTION for you, even if you don't
have money or looks, etc.
In other words, it's a complete system.
You'll learn everything you need to know in order
to start meeting and dating more women
IMMEDIATELY.
All the details, and some great free samples are
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