I'm sure that,
just like me, you've read a hundred dating tips
and articles that say things like:
"If she tilts her head to one side and
strokes
her neck, that's a sign of interest..."
"If she licks her lips in a longing fashion,
that means she's interested in you..."
"If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye
contact,
and touches you often, then she likes you..."
DUH!
I remember when I
first read all this stuff.
I thought to myself
"Wow, cool! I must have been missing these
hints because I didn't know to look for them. Now
I'll know when a woman is interested in me...".
Well, there was ONE
SMALL problem...
The problem is that
women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in
about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men...
And there was one BIG
problem...
That problem was that
none of the damn dating tips I read said a single
thing about how to MAKE women give you these
signals.
In other words,
what I realized is that average guys like me who
don't get "approached" by women need to
learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more
importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in
women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST
PLACE.
So let me share with
you some dating tips on how to MAKE women feel
ATTRACTION for you... and then I'll share some
ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is
interested.
And my ideas will be a
WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in
your flirting books.
OK, so you're out at a
bar with a few friends, and it's time to meet
some interesting women.
You look around, and
none of the hot young babes in there seem to be
tilting their heads to one side, looking you in
the eye, and licking their lips... so you decide
to DO SOMETHING.
What do most guys
do in this situation?
Either:
1) Nothing, because they're scared, or...
2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance,
or if he can buy her a drink.
If you're guilty
of doing these, raise your hand.
Then take your
raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too
hard. But silly.
Here's a thought
for you...
If you put 100
guys in a bar with one beautiful women sitting
alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys "Hey
guys, which one of you can walk over to that
woman and do something to make that woman feel a
SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?"... I'd say that
if you're LUCKY, one of them will claim that he
can do it.
In other words,
for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl
they don't know and doing something that will
TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of
their universe.
This is one of the
reasons why guys do things like asking girls to
dance, buying them drinks, etc.
Now, something you
must understand when it comes to women and
ATTRACTION is that women don't feel ATTRACTION
for WUSSIES.
ATTRACTION isn't a
CHOICE.
It isn't logical (at
least, on the surface).
But once you start
to "get it", everything changes. Your
entire perspective changes once you "get it",
and your results change instantly as well.
So here's a dating
tip for you to try:
MESS WITH WOMEN.
That's right
"mess with" them.
Tease.
Bust on.
Be difficult.
Why?
Because it
INSTANTLY communicates that:
1) You could care less what she thinks of you.
2) You're a fun person.
3) You're unpredictable.
4) You're a bit of a "wild card"
5) You GET IT.
Now, you might be
shaking your head right now and saying "That's
doesn't make any sense. Why would a woman feel
attracted to me if I mess with her instead of
being nice?".
That's a good
question.
But for now, take
the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier,
and slap yourself again.
Good.
I want you to STOP
following your "be nice and kiss ass"
instincts when you first meet a woman, and
instead practice MESSING WITH HER.
Make fun of something.
Go to hand her
something, then pull it away at the last second.
Shake your head in
despair and tell her that she's screwing up her
chances with you.
Say something
Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away
before she can respond to your face.
Can ya feel me,
dog?
Now the good stuff...
HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED
Well this is what
you were looking for, so here it is...
I'm going to give
you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or
not a woman is interested in you.
Here it is:
1) You engage her.
2) She engages you back.
Yes, that's it.
Please stop the applause long enough that I can
finish. You can clap later.
I know that this
sounds a little "Duh-ish", but stay
with me here.
If I walk into a
restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are
in my party, and I answer with "Well, there
are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if
YOU join us..." and she laughs at my joke,
then IT'S ON!
If I'm standing at
the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my
arm, and I turn and say "Hey, watch it, OK?
Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of
room..." in a serious tone of voice... and
she starts playing along by smiling and moving
away from me then back again playfully, then IT'S
ON!
If I'm talking to
a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I
ask her "What's with that huge purse of
yours? You got a dog in there or something?"
and she starts laughing and making excuses, then
IT'S ON!
In a nutshell,
what I'm trying to say is:
1) Stop looking around for signals from women
that they're "interested" in you.
2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman
is interested in you.
3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and
watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then
assume that IT'S ON!
As long as you use how
she's responding to what YOU do as your gauge,
then you'll have a MUCH easier time spotting the
"she wants me" clues...
...Because YOU ARE
THE ONE CAUSING THEM.
Now...
...if
you want DOZENS AND DOZENS of great dating tips
and ideas for making women feel that
powerful "chemistry" with you, then go
download a copy of my online ebook here:
Stop
beating your head against the wall, and start
taking advantage of the years I've spent learning
this stuff. You'll be SO glad you did.
And
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your
Friend,
David
DeAngelo
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