How to
Meet Women With Personal Ads
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Meeting Women With 'Personal Ads
***QUESTION***
Dave:
On your audio series, you talk about getting
past
the fluff and "talk to that other part of the
woman" How do you do that? I answer ads on the
personals, and I keep thinking that my dialogue
with these women is all wrong.
I know you gotta be C&F, but sometimes there's
not
much to go on from an online profile. Here's an
example from a girl that lives in my
neighborhood:
"I'd like to eventually settle down with someone
that I can look to as a best friend and that I
can
laugh with. I enjoy traveling, working out,
yoga,
music, and dining out in NYC. I am playful and
fun
and have a lot to offer the right man. I believe
that the best relationships are based on
friendship. I am genuine, kind and compassionate
and I am looking for the same in a man.
My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn't
afraid of being himself. He knows what he wants
and goes for it. He is confident, not cocky. He
is
a person of good character, high morals and
loyal.
He is thoughtful, considerate and knows how to
treat a lady. Last but not least, my ideal man
is
attractive with a good sense of humor".
I can't think of anything cocky to say to
this...or how to communicate that I'm a sexually
aware man. I'm not really sure what you mean by
sexually aware anyway, unless you mean sexually
successful...like when you know you're hot and
women want you.
So, can you help me understand how you'd respond
to an ad like this?
thanks,
-R
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Now, let me address a few of your comments...
As far as responding to a woman's online
personal ads...
Remember, women who run personal ads are
getting TONS of responses.
If you're going to play the personals, stay
current with them, and contact women as soon as
they place their ad. This way you'll be one of
the
first to start a conversation with her... as
opposed to the 497th guy. At some point, the
hundreds of men who are responding to a woman's
personal ad all run together into a big lump of
desperate men. So, be first if you can.
Secondly, forget about trying to respond to a
woman's personal ad by reading it,
thinking about
it, considering what she's looking for, and then
responding in a way that she will find
interesting.
No no no!
The ad you sent above could have been written
by any woman in any part of the world... it
might
as well be a generic ad template for women.
The one thing this ad DOESN'T mention (and the
one thing that NO female personal ads EVER
mention) is what makes this woman feel
ATTRACTION
for a man.
Think about it for a minute...
This woman sat down one night at her computer,
and said to herself:
"I'm tired of the dating game. Maybe if I put a
personal ad online and describe the kind of guy
I'm looking for, Prince Charming will find me
and
we'll live happily ever after".
Can't you just FEEL it in her words?
"I'd like to eventually settle down with someone
that I can look to as a best friend and that I
can
laugh with..."
"I believe that the best relationships are based
on friendship..."
And the whole last paragraph is priceless...
"My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn't
afraid of being himself. He knows what he wants
and goes for it. He is confident, not cocky. He
is
a person of good character, high morals and
loyal.
He is thoughtful, considerate and knows how to
treat a lady. Last but not least, my ideal man
is
attractive with a good sense of humor..."
So what do most guys do when they read an ad
like this one?
Of course... they write back something like:
"Hi, I'm a nice attractive SWM who has a sense
of
humor, high morals, is honest, and also believes
that a good friendship is the foundation for a
great relationship."
UGH!
Someone bring me a bucket, because I'm gonna
PUKE.
Look... when a woman is writing a PERSONAL ad,
she's usually at a point in her life where she's
lonely... and has often lost hope of finding a
long term companion in the real world.
OF COURSE she's going to write all this sappy
stuff.
But that doesn't change ANYTHING about what is
going to get her attention and make her feel
ATTRACTION.
Again, my gut tells me that you're trying to
figure out how to answer this kind of personal
ad
with a WUSSY response that will make her love
you.
Don't.
And to address your question of how to
communicate that you're a confident, sexually
aware man...
You do this by NOT trying to please her, saying
what she wants to hear, and kissing up to her.
It sounds to me like you need to spend more
time studying the materials you have, practicing
your Cocky & Funny skills, and making your
personality more interesting... and less time
chasing women who are looking for an open,
honest,
Yoga-loving husband via the personal ads.
Use the materials you have!
Practice!
In my eBook, I take a lot
of time to help you get your "inner game"
together, so you can feel GOOD about your
success
with women.
Of course, I also reveal dozens and dozens and
dozens of killer techniques for approaching,
meeting, dating, and taking things to a physical
level with women.
I recommend that you check them out.
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