This
tantra massage exercise might look simple but it is very
powerful and fun to do. After you do the
exercise, ask yourself did you feel more
comfortable in the giving role or the
receiving role? How much of the time were
you totally present in your touch?
This tantra
massage exercise takes about an hour, so make
sure you put aside enough time. Start by
preparing your space. You'll be naked, so
put the heating on at least an hour
before so you'll be warm enough. Make
sure you won't be disturbed. Unplug the
phone and lock your door. After you have
done stage one you can do the nest stage
another day.
Ground
rules for tantra massage.
Before
you start, it's important that you both
agree this isn't a prelude to sex and
genital touching is out of bounds for
stage 1 and stage 2. You may find you
become aroused during the exercise, but
this isn't the aim. Take it in turns
to be the touched and the tougher.
The
receiver for tantra massage.
You
just need to lend your partner your body
for 30 minutes: 15 minutes lying on your
front, then 15 on your back. You don't
need to say anything unless something's
uncomfortable.
The
giver for tantra massage.
You
focus your attention as much as possible
on your sensations. Direct all your
attention and intention on where you
touch your partners skin and where your
partner touches you when you swap places.
If
you mind wanders during the exercise
consciously bring it back to the places
of your connection and what you are
experiencing. If you start to try to
please your partner just bring your focus
on your touch.
This
type of tantric massage healing touch is
Very
slow. Practice slowing your
speed of touch by half.
Pressure
free with no goal at all.
Focused
on pleasure of touching your
partner, not giving pleasure.
In
the here and now. Bring your
mind back to your touch if you
drift off.
Sensuous.
Explore
your partner's body in tantra maassage from head to toe,
first the back then the front. Avoid the
genital area. Focus totally on your
sensations of touch. Think about the
different textures and temperatures of
your partner's body. Think about how it
feels to use hard and soft, long and
short strokes.
Use
your fingertips, palms and the back of
your hands. A touch that just touches the
hairs of the skin can be very pleasurable.
Also, go very slow in moving your hands
and this helps you be more present and
out of your head.
Also
scan your body time to time in tantra massage. You could be
surprised at feelings of energy in your
body as you touch. Tantra massage is totally relaxing
and allowing the energy and connection to deepen.
Remember
- this isn't a massage. The point is to
focus on the pleasure of touching your
partner, not giving pleasure. You can
do that another day.
When
you've finished your tantra massage swap over.
It is
important both partners take turns. If
one partner does not want to swap this
could mean some relationship issues you
both need to address.
After
the hour's up, don't analyze it straight
away. In fact, agree that you won't talk
about it for 24 hours. This will help you
focus on the sensory experience, rather
than rationalizing the process.
Second
stage of tantra massage.
The
second stage allows partners to touch any
part of the other's body, including the
genitals and breasts. However, the focus
remains the same-on the sensation of
touching, not on sexual response.
Intercourse is not allowed. Again the
focused is on pleasure of touching your
partner, not giving pleasure.
Third stage of tantra massage
The third step involves mutual
touching, eventually leading to
sexual intercourse as the
couple becomes more comfortable
with the pleasure of the
here and now of touching and being
touched. The focus is on
enjoyment rather than on orgasm.
One can next add more
communication to the exercise.
Explore what parts of your lovers
body is most sensitive.
Ask for feedback to map your
partners erotic zones.
My tip
for tantra massage. Try sucking the big toe!
When you have sucked one
try both at once!
This practice develops the
ability to go into sexual trance.
I do recommend you work on
partner engagement too.
Enjoy exploring tantra massage with your
partner.
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